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Tuesday, November 24, 2009
Adam Lambert, for what it's worth
I'd like to echo the comments of a perceptive, level-headed blogger regarding the downright stupid, absurdly sexualized actions of American Idol runner-up Adam Lambert on the "American Music Awards" two nights ago:
"You're not helping, shithead."Please keep in mind I'm referring to sexualized actions on national television, in prime time. Sure, people can change the channel if they don't like it. But that's not the point, by a long shot.
". . . the dirty little secret you think nobody knows is that you don't have enough confidence in your own talent - you think you have to use sex to sell yourself. Buddy, you are so wrong, and I hope you find that out real quick."
It's also pertinent to refer to a recent Newsweek article, "Kings of Queens" ("Gays on TV once helped promote tolerance. Now they may be hurting it," by Ramin Setoodeh, published online November 12, 2009), which examines various high-profile out/loud/proud gay characters on American television, most notably Fox-TV's "Glee" at the moment. Here's an excerpt that I find useful, though I suspect that many gay men who read this will, from a state of denial, disagree with it:
The problem with the Glee club is that Kurt and the rest are loud and proud, but their generation has turned down the volume. All this at a time when standing apart seems particularly counterproductive. Marriage (and the military) are sacred institutions, so it's not surprising that some heterosexuals will defend them against what they see as a radical alteration. But if you want to be invited to someone else's party, sometimes you have to dress the part. Is that a form of appeasement? Maybe. It's not that gay men and women should pretend to be straight, or file down all their fabulously spiky edges. But even Rachel Maddow wears lipstick on TV. The key is balance. There's so much more to the gay community than the people on TV (or at a gay-pride parade). We just want a chance to live and love like everybody else. Unfortunately, at the rate we're going, we won't get there until the post-post-gay generation.I hasten to add that I am a big fan of "Glee," a huge hit on American television. I just know for a fact that all the out-and-loud and out-of-control antics of what we used to call "flamers" are going to be very costly for the gay population as a whole. Don't believe me? Just wait for the next U.S. election cycle. That'll teach ya.